Is your home transitional or transformational? Never thought of your home in these terms before? Me either! Not until I heard Nate Berkus and Jeremiah Brent explain it in their conversation on the Sheri & Nancy Show (the conversation about sanctuary starts around minute 22). They describe a transitional house as one where we might feel "half in and half out." A transformational house is one based on "what the walls give you." This resonates with me deeply because this is what I call, your soul's oasis. It reflects all who live there, represents how you want to live your life, feeds your soul, and fills you with joy.
A soul oasis supports you with visual reminders of your happiest memories but it also contains items that point you in the direction of your dreams. We all have various home decor items. Often times we buy things because we saw someone else do it or we want our house to look current or trendy. If the items in your environment aren't providing a function, filling you with joy, or pointing you towards your dreams, why are they there? When you decorate with intention and let your home tell you stories, it will feed your soul and transform your life.
Have you seen Joanna Gaines new book, Home Body, yet? It's full of beautiful full-color images of many of her projects. She explains how she chooses decorative items to create special meaning throughout their home. She explains how she doesn't rush to fill up empty rooms. Instead, she takes her time and waits for the needs and desires to arise. She said, "I came upon the large antique clock that was missing the hour and minute hands. It now hangs on the wall above the sofa, and to me, it symbolizes grace in our day-to-day life and that time at home is never wasted. I love how it helps to tell our story as you move from the entryway to the heart of our home."
This is what decorating with intention is all about and this is how you create your soul's oasis. What items do you have in your home that you can look at from a different perspective? A broken clock? No reason to discard it. Hang it in a place you pass by often so that every time you look at it, you're telling yourself a really great story that fills you with joy.
January. The holiday rush is over and the new year has begun. The Christmas decorations have been returned to the attic and the glitter and dust have been swept away. The sofa and chairs have been moved back into place and the entire house feels refreshed and renewed; a complete reflection of how I'm feeling in spirit. The heaviness of red roses and evergreen branches have been replaced with the palest of pink carnations and rocks collected on the beach have been returned to their rightful place on the mantel.
Everywhere I look throughout our house, I see stories. I see life experiences and I see dreams yet to be fulfilled. As I sit at my desk writing these words, I am looking at a collection of items that sits at the corner of my desk. A simple mirror tile beautifully reflects a quartz candle, a crystal butterfly, "Pear Designs" engraved into an acrylic paperweight, and a seashell necklace. All of these treasures combined, remind me that I want to reflect on the beauty that surrounds me, and I want to feel light and free as I expand my business. This simple display fills me with hope of what is to come.
I have similar groupings of things throughout my house that tell me different stories. Some stories are happy memories and some stories are reminders of dreams yet to be fulfilled. Our home is a true reflection of us. It is our soul's oasis.
Are you reflected in your space? Does your decor remind you of what is most important to you or have your dreams and happy memories been lost in the clutter? Clear a space; even if it's a small corner of a desk or a room, the kitchen counter, or a shelf. Find a space to create a story for yourself. If it is nothing more than a mirror with a candle on it, let it serve as a reminder to slow down for a minute to reflect, make a wish, and celebrate you.
I often refer to creating a soul oasis as storytelling because the items displayed in our spaces should tell us really good stories. Another way to look at it is to consider it an evolving, three-dimensional vision board. Like a vision board, the "images" (wall art) are "symbols" that point to our dreams or visions. The stories develop as we imagine what is yet to come or simply reflect on happy memories.
The corner in the above photo is the wealth area of our bedroom, according to the Bagua Map. We purchased the painting of the white dory while traveling to Bayfield, Ontario, a beautiful beach town we love to visit. Since this is the most expensive piece of art we own, I thought it was the perfect symbol of wealth. The mirror to the left of the painting symbolizes that we want expansion in our wealth area and the framed photo above the bed is a sunset view from a favorite spot in Cayman Island. The combination of these items signify travel, a beautiful memory, and dreams of expanding our wealth.
I love buying fresh flowers for our house! This yellow "vase" is called a Gurgle Pot...it looks like a fish and it makes gurgling sounds as water is poured from it. There's a deeper explanation about the history of it but the gist is, IT MAKES ME SMILE!
Growing up, my dad would frequently walk in the door after a long day at work with three bouquets of flowers...one for each of his girls. I think my mom's bouquet was bigger but my sister and I each had our own bouquet to place in our bedroom. A simple gesture made us feel so special! When I buy flowers now, I often get that giddy little girl feeling again. Thank you Dad!
We visited friends this weekend who recently moved into their new house. After the first day taking in all the details, I couldn't sit back any longer before I started rearranging their accessories (it's a good thing they appreciate my compulsive decorating behavior).
What do you have displayed on your desk that helps you get through stressful days? Do you know how to create a sensory experience and soul connection for yourself? I will show you how at the Soul Oasis & Vision Board Woman’s Workshop that I am co-hosting with Megan Gunnell on October 13, 2018.
Soul Oasis and Vision Board Women’s Workshop